I don't think he quite understands how this works...

So, last night before bedtime I got a message from an 18-year old guy from my state. I look at his profile, and he honestly looks like he's maybe 14. He's got kind of a chubby little baby face, but he seems nice. The subject of the message is "hey wanna be friends?" and the message itself says "This is great this thing is free right. I don't know how to use it though, you are nice." Since I AM nice, I actually responded, and then I went off to bed.

In the morning, I checked my inbox, and I had FOUR messages from this guy.

"RE: Hey :3 -- I'm new using this, and I wanna meet some people, nice girl maybe, I don't know. Tell me about you"

"You got anything to say? -- it no good when i get no response back, say something"

"hey reply back will ya -- Ive been trying to talk to you, are you getting this"

"hey you very qiete, say something -- lets go to a movie, do you wanna do that"

So I messaged him back explaining that while this site HAS an instant messenger, he was not using it. xD He hasn't said anything back to me since.

On another note, I personally have a rule about not giving my screen name out to a guy until I've talked to him long enough to know he's *probably* not a total creep. I used to give my screen name out from the get go, MONTHS ago, and I literally still have guys from back then trying to IM me, despite the fact that I have literally not acknowledged them in about six months. So, I've learned my lesson. Given, I'll admit I still end up having to block people after chatting for a while, it tends to keep my headaches to a minimum.

Now, I still get asked for my screen name all the time, and most guys are more than happy to respect my answer when I say I'd like to get to know them better first. I've literally had guys, though, that just stop talking to me all together upon hearing that, for whatever reason. My guess is they're likely just looking for a webcam. Even though I don't even HAVE a webcam, it's kind of made me glad that I set that boundary, because now I can also use it to see who will *respect* my boundaries. I may start setting a few more. xD