Him: But your point is noted, even though I'll have you recall I did come out and say it much earlier today.
Me: Yes, but in a very different context.
Him: How so?
Me: You told me that before mentioning you were angry at me.
Him: Anger changes things?
Me: Yes?
Him: How?
Me: Cuz when I'm angry at people, I don't usually want to go on dates with them. Therefore that's not something I would've thought of later.
Him: Anger changes little in me.
Me: So you're this roundabout, stubborn, and cynical all the time?
Him: Cynical how?
Me: Anytime I've mentioned my ideas of relationships and emotion, you've had some less idealistic, almost robotic answer for how you view it.....Algorithms, and what not... "Circumstances never change".
Him: Thinking is just algorithmic. Learning is algorithmic.
Me: That doesn't mean everything can be spelled out and predetermined.
Him: When did I claim that?
Me: Answer me this - do you believe a person can change, and even having hurt someone before, never do it again?
Him: It always happens again. Me: Now consider this - How about a person who's never hurt someone? What are the odds they'll never hurt somebody. I've obviously been hurt, and I've hurt people. So I know circumstances change. Because if they didn't, I would've either hurt no one or hurt everybody.
Him: You'll find out the hard way, soon enough, it seems.
Me: And if I do, I'll take it in stride. But I refuse to shut out an entire part of my life because something went bad. Do you even know why my ex hurt me?
Him: No, why would I?
Me: So you can't say with any certainty that I didn't have some influence on him hurting me, that somehow something I did lead him to his actions. But I do. So it'd be fair to assume, if I didn't want him to repeat those actions, I should be more mindful of my own, and change the circumstances. But to count him out completely because he hurt me without knowing anything about what actually happened is incredibly cynical. In that same light, since I hurt you, why do you even want to go on a date with me? By your logic, I'm going to hurt you again. And quite frankly, after this whole conversation, and seeing how you're likely going to argue with me if I were to date you, the chances are good the next time I hurt you would be physically.
Hey, at least I'm honest. xD
Him: Hey, interesting conclusions.
Me: You and I have some deep-seated core differences. As a couple, they'd likely drive us to hate each other.
Him: Once again, interesting conclusion.
Me: Okay. Regard them as you will. *shrug*
Him: Why don't you tell me what you would like me to do, instead?
Me: Presently, I'm incredibly frustrated with you. I'd be happy with one of two options: We can be friends if you're going to avoid arguments with me like this, and just be straight forward about things. Or, we can drop this where it is and let it go.
Him: Doesn't it seem that both options are the same?
Me: No. I should've been more clear with the second option. The first option, we stay friends. The second option, we stop talking.
Him: Why so drastic both ways?
Me: Well, the second one is a bit drastic. Why is the first one drastic? Us being friends doesn't really seem like an extreme option.
Him: After the flirting? Yeah, it kinda is.
Me: Perhaps after the flirting it would seem drastic for us to go to just being friends. However, after this ARGUMENT, the flirting has run its course. If we dated, I'd probably end up hating you. I seldom argue with friends, but I do it enough with boyfriends. And if you always argue like that, I would literally just hate you sooner or later. Because arguing with you just now I absolutely could not stand you.
Him: Then it's best you go.
Go where? We're talking online. He's absolutely insane. How could he possibly think I'd still want to date him after all that?
Wow, this guy must be the only human on the planet to fail the Turing test. I wouldn't be surprised if his possibly-hypothetical ex is another fabrication of his twisted logic.
ReplyDeleteI bet he also sits in crowded bars explaining the laws of thermodynamics. Well, I do that, too, but girls think I'm smart and cute.
Haha, I have no idea what half of that meant dear. xD
ReplyDeleteYou want his screen name?
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