Messaging a Potential Date

Hi everyone, my name is Christina, and I'll be posting on here on and off with some of my own stories. I've been in the online dating scene for a few years now, and I think I have some good advice to pass on to those ready to take the plunge. For me, I see online dating as successful as meeting people in real life; a lot of "No"s, a few "Maybe"s, and a select couple of "Yes"s that really give you great memories and add to your life.

Today I wanted to delve a little onto the messaging portion. I know there has been some discussion on this, but instead of focusing on what to NOT say, I wanted to give some tidbits on what it GREAT to say, to both men and women.

1.) People enjoy receiving respect, so fellas, if you think her body is amazing, you can say so, but do it with class. For example, instead of saying, "Your body gets me going" (which will make her eyes roll), try something like, "You're body is stunning!" Same point, different approach.

2.) If you guys have similar interests, mention how you like their interest as well, and then say something about it (if it's running, talk a little bit about your daily running routine, etc). Giving up information about yourself first, gives immediate highlight to something you both have in common, and second, shows your interest in her is more than just "You're hot". People like compliments, but if their desired relationship is long-term, they want someone they can hold a conversation with as well.

3.) Live near each other? Mention it! Believe it or not, there has been plenty of times where a guy I might not have looked at twice sent me a message saying how we only lived about 15 minutes from each other, and we ended up going on a few dates! Location in the online world is something you have to talk about, and what's a great way to get it out of the way by instead just saying, "Who knew that such a hunk could live only 20 miles away from me?" Compliment in a sweet way without being too forward, and highlighted a positive about your dateability!

These are just a couple ways to snag someone's attention. Try it out on your next message; you may be surprised at the positive response!